For a long time, I didn’t know what I wanted sexually.
I had very little idea of what turned me on.
I had some ideas… things I’d heard about that I wanted to try but I was far too shy to ask for it!
It was only after I began practicing Tantra and I felt like I was given permission to enjoy myself and express myself sexually that I started to feel okay with accepting pleasure and my sexual desires.
What I enjoy sexually has changed over time - it continues to change actually! I go through phases of really enjoying something and then kind of moving on a bit. Often it’s really dependent on my mood too!
I think one of the reasons I love helping women become sexually empowered so much is because I’m so aware of the whole range of possibilities there are for pleasure!
There’s a really common set of questions and statements I hear from women when we’re discussing feeling sexually empowered, confident and being well-pleasured. They go like this:
How do I tell my partner what I like?
I’m not even sure I know what I like.
How do you find this out? What do other women like?
I also hear women’s partners say things like:
I wish I knew what she *really enjoys sexually. I try to ask her, but she says she doesn’t know. I just really want to know how to please her.
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, Sex + Intimacy, I’m sharing advice and practical tips to help you discover epic pleasure. You’ll hear:
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What should you do if your man has sexual challenges, can’t ‘get it up’ or isn’t interested in sex? I’m sharing my personal experience with you.
Some of you will know that one of the experiences that led me to working in the field of sexuality, intimacy and relationships, was my time working as a Sexual Surrogate.
In this role, I worked intimately and practically with men experiencing sexual dysfunction such as low libido, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction.
It was an incredible opportunity to see just how deeply sexuality impacts us as human beings, but also the professional possibilities for helping people. I struggle to put into words how profound, insightful and rewarding that work was for me.
Although I mostly work with women and couples now, it's still something close to my heart.
I receive a LOT of questions from women now on how to support their men with sexual challenges including low desire, ED and PE.
55% of men will have experienced a sexual dysfunction within the last 12 months. (Which means a significant portion of women will encounter these issues also.)
Our culture places high expectations on men to be sexually proficient and capable at all times.
When men experience sexual challenges of any kind, they often report it bringing into question their sense of worth and their masculinity.
They often express feeling:
Our culture also places an expectation on women to feel desired and sought-after.
When a woman’s partner is experiencing sexual challenges, it can sometimes lead her to question her own desirability (even though this usually has little to do with what’s going on!)
Women often experience a range of thoughts and emotions when their partner experiences sexual challenges, such as:
Feeling like they don’t know what to do to help
How a partner responds to a sexual dysfunction can make a big difference to what happens going forward.
For some men, the negative reaction of a partner increases their anxiety about it happening again - almost guaranteeing it does.
But there are helpful ways a partner can respond and there are steps a man can take to overcome these sexual challenges.
In this episode of Wholehearted Love, Sex + Intimacy, you’ll hear:
Like any sexual challenge, these issues aren’t something you need to deal with alone.
If you’re ready to move forward to more satisfying, loving sex, book a call with Isiah.