Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy

Want wild confidence, a harmonious relationship + lasting desire? Welcome to Wholehearted Love, Life + Intimacy - the podcast here to help you create harmonious relationships, an inspired life + wholehearted intimacy. Join Isiah McKimmie, Couples Therapist, Sexologist + intimacy guru as she shares inspiring interviews, practical tools and the latest research-based advice for wild confidence, epic pleasure and a WHOLEHEARTED life. From dating, confidence and communication to successful relationships, having epic orgasms and living a life you LOVE - this podcast has it all. Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who’s been helping women and couples discover love, intimacy, lasting desire for over a decade. If you have a guest suggestion, a question or topic you’d like to see Isiah cover on the podcast, head to
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Jul 27, 2018

My gorgeous friend Stacey, from Mind Interiors, reached out to chat to me about one of the Chakras - in particular, the Sacral Chakra.

Despite the fact that I teach Tantra, I often don’t share on the Chakras, because I know they can seem esoteric - and I like to be really grounded in my approach. But one of the things I really love about Tantra is that it’s not only spiritual, but incredibly practical.

So although we’re talking about Chakras today, you’ll find our conversation practical, insightful and powerful.

Before we dive in, I want to share just a little on what Chakras are for those of you that might be unfamiliar with them.

Chakras in Eastern mythology and philosophy are spinning wheels of energy and light. We can’t see them or actually find them in the body.

There are 7 Chakras aligning with our physical body. Each Chakra has it’s own energy that corresponds to areas of our lives - and we work a lot with these in Tantra.

Stacey and I are talking about the Sacral Chakra, sexuality + creativity and explore:

  • Are personal power, sexual power + creative power the same energy? and how do they affect our self worth?
  • How to recognize when we’re squashing down our energies
  • The interconnectedness of the chakras
  • Activating the life force of your sacral chakra and how that manifests/is expressed
  • How we can reconnect and give ourselves permission to be our true selves
  • How to communicate our needs, wants and desires (to ourself + our partner)
  • Preparing the perfect physical space to engage all the senses ahead of intimacy
  • Giving and receiving with gratitude
  • Sensuality and sexuality

I hope you enjoy this glimpse into Chakras, creativity and sexuality…

Jul 23, 2018

Today I’m sharing just how and where you can start when you haven’t been intimate in a really long time.

One of the most common reasons couples see me as a therapist is because they’re not having sex anymore - or at least not being intimate as often as they’d like.

Becoming intimate again can make such a huge difference to our relationship and overall happiness.

We tend to think everyone else has a great relationship and sex life. We can think that there’s something wrong with us because we’re the only ones not having sex – or arguing about it. But couples who are struggling in this area are not alone. It’s far more common than we might think. 

What’s really important to know is it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. 

If it’s been a while since you were intimate you might be able to relate to this:

  • Perhaps you’ve been wishing this will just ‘fix’ itself, or wished that you could just get on with your relationship without sex.
  • Maybe you build yourself up, telling yourself ‘I know I need to do something about this – tonight’s the night.’ But then you forget or feel too nervous or just don’t feel in the mood anymore.
  • The longer you go without it, the more awkward and uncomfortable it can feel.
  • You wish you could just want to ‘want to’ again. But you don’t know how or where to start. And it seems like all the sex advice in the world can’t get you over that first hurdle.

For this episode we’re going to talk specifically about how to take small, practical steps towards regaining intimacy when it’s been a long time, including:

  • Asking yourself how important it is to you
  • Understanding desire
  • Sharing appreciation with your partner
  • Spending quality time together
  • The small steps back to intimacy using non-sexual physical touch

Starting again when your sex life has been in decline isn’t easy, but it is possible.

Often, taking the first step is the hardest. By listening to this podcast, you’ve already begun the journey.

And I want you to know you don’t need to do it alone. I'm here to help. You can reach out via my website and book a short 20 minute call to see if we’re a good fit for working together.

You can also find more free resources on my website on building connection and reigniting intimacy. And for more on Desire – check out my recent podcast, Desire – everything you need to know.

Jul 20, 2018

In this episode, I’m back talking with Julia Hasche on The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast and this time it's all about ORGASMS.

We discuss:

  • if orgasms are possible for everyone
  • if it is normal to struggle to reach an orgasm
  • what kind of factors can get in the way of reaching an orgasm
  • what you can do to find your orgasm

and lots more!

And I answer questions from listeners such as:

  • Is it common for mothers over 40 to lose their sex drive completely?
  • How do you get your orgasm back after having a child?
  • When it comes to sex, is it a case of “use it or lose it”?

It’s an interesting one! I hope you enjoy. And if you have any girlfriends out there who should take a listen, be sure to share.

More About Julia

Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author, and mentor for single parents. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about.

It aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. She does this by providing a community for single mothers, providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media, her one-on-one mentoring and her online courses.

If you want to find out more about Julia check out her on her website or on facebook or Insta.

Jul 18, 2018

You know those conversations that you wish you could have with your girlfriends?

Today’s episode is one of those conversations. I’m talking to my friend Sal from Mojoco about anal sex.

We’re having an open (and very candid) conversation about our own experiences and some of the things you might need to consider if you or your partner are interested in exploring anal play.

Here’s what we cover:

  • Why I love it and why Sal still isn’t interested in trying it
  • Where to start with anal sex
  • My first experience with anal sex and why it was terrible
  • The hygiene issues you need to consider
  • We also get honest about any ‘messiness’ that might arise

Take a listen in ... 

And you can find out more about Mojoco and their products here.

Jul 17, 2018

Tantra is the incredible practice that really began my journey with sexuality, sensuality and intimacy - and still provides the foundation of so much of the work I do.

I hear all kinds of things when I tell people I practice and teach Tantra.

I’ve heard "Oh Tantra, that’s about group sex right?" or

"Oh, I know all about Tantra. Sting does Tantra and he can have sex for 9 hours."

In this episode, I’m:

  • sharing what Tantra is
  • busting myths on what it isn’t
  • sharing what my own personal Tantra practice involves; and
  • sharing how you can try Tantra yourself - tonight if you want to!
Jul 10, 2018

If you feel disconnected from your partner OR struggle with recurring arguments. If you find yourself replaying the same patterns in relationships OR if you wish you could feel more confident with sex and your body … then this episode is for YOU.

Recently I was interviewed by Naturopath Jules Galloway as part of her podcast, Shiny Healthy You, in what has jokingly been labelled her Vag series!  We stepped away from discussing lady bits to delve more into relationships.

Whether you’re single, or in a relationship, there will be plenty of “aha” moments!

We talk about what to do

  • if your partner wants more sex… and you’re too exhausted to say yes
  • If you’re feeling up for it… but you’re not getting the kind of attention and desire that you want from your partner
  • to reignite the spark and reconnect with your loved one
  • to “get back on the horse” if you haven’t had sex for a reaaaaaally long time. (It can be super awkward and weird, but it doesn’t have to be!)

“It’s actually really normal for there to be different desire levels for sex in a relationship.”


  • the step by step formula to rebuilding your sex life (and your relationship…yay!)
  • how to check in with your own needs and desires, so that you can communicate better with your partner. Because sometimes our needs change over time, and we don’t even realise at first.

And if you’re single, find out tips for attracting a partner that will be the right person for us, and how to stop repeating old patterns when it comes to the lovers we’re drawn to.

“A partner’s desire for sex is actually a desire for connection and intimacy.”

We also chat about body image, and what it means to feel happy in your body (and sexy!) as you age and as your body changes.

“Once you’re naked, your partner’s just really grateful.”

Hahaha! Yes, it may really be that simple! Listen in to find out why.



Jules Galloway is a passionate naturopath, speaker and podcaster.

With over 10 years of clinical experience, Jules has made it her mission to help women find their shine again. She’s guided hundreds of women through her eCourses, sees clients individually and her podcast gets thousands of downloads every month.

You can find Jules at, on Facebook and Instagram at @julesgallowayhealth, and check out her podcast on iTunes - just search for Shiny Healthy You.

Jul 6, 2018

What makes us emotionally resilient? How does being self aware benefit our relationships? How do we find time for ourselves - and our relationship once we've had kids? 


In this episode I'm talking to parenting expert Dina Cooper on all this and more. 


This is a must-listen episode whether you have kids or not. We're taking a deep dive into managing emotions, prioritising relationships and putting ourselves first. 


For more on Dina and her services visit

For more on Isiah visit

Jul 4, 2018

How do you initiate sex? 

Does it ‘just happen’? Do you make the first move? Do you usually leave it up to a partner? 

This is a topic that comes up a lot with couples that I’m working with in therapy and the articles I share on this topic are always popular.  

Initiating sex can be incredibly anxiety provoking. We’re all sensitive to feeling unloved. 

If we make a move, and our partner doesn’t reciprocate, we can feel like they’re rejecting us - and no one wants to feel that way. 

Many women I speak to, tell me that they psyche themselves up all day to make a move on their partner when they get home, but then, they feel too nervous and back out. Or  they just feel like they don’t even know how to… 

Or that they try - and their partner doesn’t seem to be interested. 

In this episode I share some of the common challenges of initiating sex and then ways you can initiate that are intimate, fun and sexy.

I hope you enjoy!