Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy

Want wild confidence, a harmonious relationship + lasting desire? Welcome to Wholehearted Love, Life + Intimacy - the podcast here to help you create harmonious relationships, an inspired life + wholehearted intimacy. Join Isiah McKimmie, Couples Therapist, Sexologist + intimacy guru as she shares inspiring interviews, practical tools and the latest research-based advice for wild confidence, epic pleasure and a WHOLEHEARTED life. From dating, confidence and communication to successful relationships, having epic orgasms and living a life you LOVE - this podcast has it all. Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who’s been helping women and couples discover love, intimacy, lasting desire for over a decade. If you have a guest suggestion, a question or topic you’d like to see Isiah cover on the podcast, head to
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Sep 28, 2018

I talked to the beautiful Aesha Kennedy of Brilliant Misfits Podcast about how I have never felt as if I fitted in (even as a child) BUT how I’ve turned that into a gift.

You know I really believe that the world needs (and deserves) us to really “bring” and “share” our unique gifts and talents, not be just what others expect us to be, not to hide our light or to make ourselves smaller.

When we love ourselves for who we really are and feel good about ourselves we make better choices – for ourselves, those we love and for the world around us.

In life you may plan to head in one direction, but you have to trust your intuition and allow the universe to guide you.

Something that Aesha said really resonated. She said “We live in a creative universe. If we can trust in that & not try to control it, it won’t lead you astray, everything is divinely perfect.” 

I love that. That so much resonates for how I live my life.


Some of the highlights from our chat:

- Investigating unconscious beliefs

- What does an embodied practice mean?

- Tips and tools to care and connect, first with yourself and with others.

- Unpacking taboos around being a sexual being

- embracing who you truly are


Take a listen. And I hope my story inspires you to connect with your true self and to confidently be the best version of your own “Brilliant Misfit” that you can be.

Aesha Kennedy is a Certified Life Coach, a teacher and practitioner of Yoga and Mindfulness and a Visual Arts Practitioner.  Her podcast Brilliant Misfits is about women who didn’t fit in and explores how this has helped them create amazing lives and businesses by courageously following their heart and doing it their own way.

You can find out more about Aesha on her website, her facebook page or check her out on Insta.

And to read more about my daily practices, check out my website.

Sep 24, 2018

Do you ever wish you could ‘let go’ during sex and really enjoy yourself? Feel relaxed around sex? Do you want it to be fun, adventurous or more playful? Want more pleasure?

In today’s episode I want to share what it is that’s helped me on my journey to becoming a sexually empowered and liberated woman. 

I did not start my journey with sex feeling confident, empowered or sexually free. I was actually incredibly shy around sex.

I enjoyed sex, but I felt guilty about it for a long time. And I was too embarrassed to ask for what I wanted in bed.  I would hear my friends talk about how incredible sex was - or the things that they’d tried as I felt like I was missing out. I just felt like I was holding myself back.

In discovering my sexual freedom, I’ve learned to feel at home in my body. I’m more connected to my intuition. I feel more pleasure and flow in my entire life. My relationships are deeper, there’s an incredible intimacy in them now. Sex is more enjoyable than I imagined it could be. And I feel radiantly alive, sexy and confident -  on a daily basis. 

So, how do we get there? Well, having coached women for over 10 years, I can tell you it’s different for all of us, but we’ll start today with:

  • Getting out of your head + in to your body
  • Making your pleasure a priority - in life and in the bedroom
  • Shining a light on your inner sexual beliefs + break free
  • Getting real sex education + pleasure education
  • Learn to say no - so you can also say “hell yes!”
  • Explore and practice

Becoming a sexually liberated woman is a journey well worth taking. I encourage you to take the first step. 

If you haven’t downloaded my e-book Liberated yet, head over to my website and get your free copy.

Sep 20, 2018

One of the most important relationships we have (besides the one we have with ourselves) is with our partner.  But life gets busy, we work so hard, we get stuck in a routine and, so often, we let our relationships fall into neglect. How do we get back in touch with ourselves - our wants, desires and our own sensuality - and reconnect with our partner?

Speaking with Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder, Mitle Southey on her Spirited Sisters Podcast, we take a deep dive into:

  • self worth and connecting with your sensual female energy
  • sexual and emotional intimacy
  • what ‘sensually embodied’ and ‘erotically empowered’ mean
  • connecting with your partner outside of the bedroom
  • the role of a sexologist
  • how a sexologist works with women and couples
  • how to communicate your needs to your partner
  • when to seek support and help; and
  • I guide you through a short exercise to become present and connect with your body.

As a woman, know that you can learn to draw on your divine feminine energy, expand your potential for pleasure and create the life and relationships you want.

To take the first step to connecting with yourself and/or your partner, download a copy of my e-book Liberated, join the waitlist for the Sensual and Soulful Online Programme or if you’d like to connect and talk about if/how coaching might work for you book in for a Get in Touch session.

If you’ve enjoyed this podcast, I’d love for you to head to i-tunes and leave a review.

More about Mitle Southey

Mitle is a former lawyer turned Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder.  She has been trained in the leading edge science of intuition and as a modern day Priestess and contemporary Mystic with the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence. Her role as a sacred circle holder is to guide women to discover their unique purpose, innate self-worth and deepest wisdom.

She brings a modern spin to the ancient and sacred tradition of women’s circles to women online, through her Spirited Sisters Podcast (was Dare to Flourish) and in person in Australia and around the world.

To connect with Mitle, check out her website or follow her on facebook or Instagram.

Sep 17, 2018

When my clients come to me experiencing painful sex, they often tell me they feel embarrassed and ashamed and like they can’t talk to anyone about it. I’m passionate about changing that.

Challenges with sex or our genitals shouldn’t be treated any different to a challenge with any other part of our body. It’s biology - it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. 

Incredibly, painful sex effects up to 20% of us women at some point in our lives and, just to put that in perspective, that means it’s more common than asthma, cancer and heart disease! 

It impacts our enjoyment of sex, can dramatically reduce our sexual desire and can place strain on our relationships - or lead women to avoid relationships completely.

If you are experiencing sexual pain at the moment you might be feeling: frustrated, guilty, confused, upset embarrassed or all of the above. 

It may be impacting your self confidence and even your daily functioning.

So, I want to assure you that you’re not alone

Painful sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.

And, although what exactly is causing painful sex can often be difficult to diagnose, there is always a reason and usually treatments that can be found.  There are also caring, understanding and qualified professionals that can help you through the process.

In this podcast I’m talking about:

  • The names that you might have heard painful sex called and what exactly they all mean
  • The different types of pain that you may be experiencing
  • What causes sex to be painful?

And of course

  • How we can treat it -  my recommendations for your diagnosis and treatment journey

Over the past 10 years, I’ve helped many through the process of diagnosing and treating sexual pain, giving them emotional support, helping them ease the burden on their relationship and re-introduce sex when the time is right. 

While I hope you find this episode helpful, it doesn’t replace a detailed consultation with a medical professional or therapist. 

Head over to my blog page for more advice and resources on painful sex and please reach out and get support from a professional. You really don’t need to go through this alone.  

I’m sending you all my love, blessings and good luck to you in this journey. 

If you found this episode helpful, I’d love for you would head over to iTunes and leave me a rating for this podcast. It will help me reach other women who might need support or encouragement around sex, love and intimacy too.

Thanks so much for listening beautiful. 

Sep 13, 2018

I recently had a wonderful conversation with the lovely Sarah McGahan on The Truth Podcast.   

I believe giving ourselves permission to feel pleasure is so important. Take a listen as Sarah and I chat openly about Pleasure, Intimacy + Desire as we touch on:

  • the dichotomy that exists between the ‘good woman’ and women who are seen as overly sexual
  • the connection between shame and sexual desire and how to manage it so we feel sexually empowered
  • Getting out of your head and coming back into your body to experience increased pleasure
  • making intimacy a priority
  • the importance of foreplay
  • how to recreate a spark between a couple who are experiencing a decline in their sexual desire for one another
  • my advice to women who struggle with pleasure or reaching orgasm 
  • why stress is both bad and good for our sex life
  • allowing and embracing sexual energy as life-force
  • learning to listen to the subtle nuances, reactions and emotions in our body to distinguish between intuition and fear.

We also talk about what it takes to show up every day in your truth and be vulnerable.

I hope you embrace the practical tools we share to enhance your experience of powerful intimacy, loving sex, more pleasure ad meaningful connections.

I’d love to hear what resonates most with you so please feel free or leave me a comment or connect with me on Insta.


Sarah’s Story:

Sarah is an Intuitive Mentor who moved to Bali on a whim, with nothing more than a laptop and a dream to live a life beyond the constraints of society.

Fast forward four years and she now offers sessions and programs (creating profound shifts at an energetic and cellular level) to clients worldwide. Sarah guides her clients to move beyond their mind and into their heart (AKA their intuition), She helps people, just like you, release negative emotions and stuck energy so that you can uncover your truth, unlock your potential and live a life of soul purpose.

You can check out more on Sarah’s website, facebook page (sarahmcgahanmentoring) or on Instagram (sarah.mcgahan).


Sep 11, 2018


I believe in showing up honesty and authenticity. I believe in having REAL, OPEN conversations about sex, love and intimacy.  So, I want to share some of my reflections and how I’m dealing with my own relationship break up.

Here’s the thing that I notice most - when our relationship ends - for whatever reason -  there’s a sense of shame and a sense of failure.

I hear the mean girl in my head saying things like ‘why couldn’t I make it work’. I’ve ‘FAILED’. And - the big one for me, ‘who would want to see me as a Couples Therapist when my own relationship has just ended?’

I feel some FEAR too – fear that I’ve ‘wasted my time’, it’s too late for me, I’ll NEVER find someone I’m compatible with again.

I’ve blamed myself and I’ve blamed my previous partners.  But I'm not doing that this time. And I don’t think anyone else should either. 

In this episode I share some raw and real reflections (and sorry, you'll hear me get a little teary about 20 minutes in - but don't worry I'm okay):

  • Should relationships try and stay together not matter what?
  • How do you know what's the right decision for you?
  • What to do with those feelings of shame, fear and blame
  • Is there a way to walk away a better, stronger person? 

If you’re going through or have been through a break up lately, you’re definitely not alone. Take a listen as I share my Survival Guide (of sorts) - the top 10 things that I turn to for support after a break up and that are supporting my clients too.  

What I can promise you is that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better - and you can find happiness again.  I’m sending all my love and thoughts to any of you going through the transition.  

Wherever you’re at right now:

- Whether it be in a relationship and you’re contemplating leaving, 

- right in the middle of a break up 

- or you’ve just come through one

I'm here to support you.  Reach out, book in a 20 minute "Get in Touch" session and let's talk.

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