Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy

Want wild confidence, a harmonious relationship + lasting desire? Welcome to Wholehearted Love, Life + Intimacy - the podcast here to help you create harmonious relationships, an inspired life + wholehearted intimacy. Join Isiah McKimmie, Couples Therapist, Sexologist + intimacy guru as she shares inspiring interviews, practical tools and the latest research-based advice for wild confidence, epic pleasure and a WHOLEHEARTED life. From dating, confidence and communication to successful relationships, having epic orgasms and living a life you LOVE - this podcast has it all. Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who’s been helping women and couples discover love, intimacy, lasting desire for over a decade. If you have a guest suggestion, a question or topic you’d like to see Isiah cover on the podcast, head to
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Jun 25, 2019

This is our most personal episode so far…

We get raw, we get open…we get vulnerable.

  • If you’ve been hurt in a past relationship
  • If you have difficulty trusting
  • If you know you struggle to open up
  • Or if you want closer connections in your life…

Know that you’re not alone. This episode is for you.

Brene Brown’s research has shown that vulnerability is the glue that holds relationships together.

But we completely understand that being vulnerable is hard, REALLY hard.

We’ve had a long journey to being vulnerable too and we still need to remind ourselves to practice vulnerability, to allow our walls to come down and our hearts to open.

We don’t always get it right.

Being vulnerable opens you up to pain, but it also opens you up to greater joy, to greater love and more meaningful relationships.

We quite simply can’t have intimacy without vulnerability.

So how do you tear down your walls and let more love in?

Join us for this intimate conversation as we share:

  • What led us to want to protect ourselves (and you’ll hear us both cry as we do)
  • The moment that changed Isiah’s life and relationships
  • What Bec’s friend said that made her realise she’s not as open and vulnerable as she thought
  • The consequences of shutting down your vulnerability and what can be gained by embracing it.
  • How you can take down the walls (that we all build to protect ourselves) and let more love in


Connection is what gives purpose and meaning to our lives.

You are worthy of love and belonging.

We hope this episode helps break down those walls you may have built up.

We hope it helps you remember to always be kind to yourself, embrace your imperfections and embrace them in others.

Be authentically you… it leads to deeper connections.

And practice vulnerability - the irony is that is actually feels good when we’re vulnerable.

The more you practice anything, the better you get. Pretty soon, you’ll be a boss of vulnerability and master of your whole-hearted life! 

With deep love and gratitude,

Isiah + Bec.xx


Links related to this episode:

We recommend checking out Brene Brown's TedX Talk - The Power of Vulnerability. 


We’d love to hear from you:

How do you feel about vulnerability?

Was there a moment in your life that led you to put your walls up?


Jun 18, 2019

I remember the first time I kissed a woman.

It’s actually not the kiss that I remember most - it’s how I felt afterwards





Because, to borrow from Katie Perry:  I kissed a girl. And I liked it.

I liked it a lot, you guys.

But I had always - and still do - consider myself heterosexual.

So how does that work?

We recently received a question from a woman who shared similar feelings about her sexual fantasies involving other women. She’s always considered herself heterosexual and only been in relationships with men, but she’s now wondering what these fantasies about women mean.

So in this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, we wanted to address her concerns, which are really common.

If you’ve also found yourself sexually attracted to the same sex, maybe watching lesbian porn and wondered ‘what does this mean???’ We’re answering it all;

We’ll talk about:

  • How common it is…
  • Why it happens
  • Why more for women than for men?
  • Is it normal?
  • Does it mean I’m a lesbian?
  • How do I feel okay with these fantasies or attractions?
  • How societal conditioning has influenced how we see these desires?

I open up about my own experiences of being with women - and what it means for my own relationships.

Enjoy this episode, knowing you are DEFINITELY NOT ALONE!

It’s becoming a bit of a theme on the podcast, but our take home message is that we believe:

  • Love who you love
  • It’s time to break down the rigid labels and boxes we’ve been given
  • Find what brings you pleasure, joy and love and give yourself permission to explore it wholeheartedly!

We think this quote from Kesha sums it up perfectly:

“I love people. It’s not about a gender. It’s just about the spirit that exudes from that other person you’re with.”


Have a topic you’d like us to cover? Let us know in the comments.

Jun 11, 2019

Am I in a Sex Rut and how do I get out of it?

Can you relate to the story of so many couples that have walked through my door?

Sex started out fun and exciting (and on a regular basis), but then life happened…

You got busy, tired and very familiar with each other. And you’ve now found yourself feeling a little lack-lustre in the bedroom.

Perhaps, like many of the couples I work with, you’ve noticed: 

  • Sex doesn’t happen very often any more
  • You’re tired or lacking enthusiasm when you do have it
  • If you’re honest, it’s not very exciting
  • When you do have sex, it tends to happen in exactly the same way each time
  • You’d like to find ways to bring the PASSION and PLAYFULNESS back

You, my friend, may be experiencing what we call a ‘sex rut’.

It’s common and you’re normal.

Sex ruts can even happen for happy couples and couples who once considered themselves pretty ‘adventurous’ in this area.

In this episode of Wholehearted: Love Sex + Intimacy – The Podcast, we’re talking about signs you’re in a sex rut - but most importantly, how you can get out.

Helping couples rediscover fun, playfulness and lasting desire in the bedroom is something Isiah does every day (with incredible results!).

We’ll be sharing 10 ways to get out of a Sex Rut and rediscover playful, loving, satisfying sex. Yes, it’s possible!

We also share:

  • The first step you must take if you want to get out of a sex rut
  • The science of adding fun and playfulness back to your bedroom
  • The simple step that helps you increase your chance of reaching orgasm
  • One of Isiah’s favourite practical exercises to help you discover what you enjoy sexually (her coaching clients love this exercise!)

Listen in as Isiah shares 10 WAYS TO GET YOURSELF OUT OF THE SEX RUT.

For a copy of her FREE Resource check out this episode on her website's blog page.

Jun 4, 2019

Is there anyone who hasn’t argued with their spouse about chores? I need to know your secret!

It’s one of the top issues couples argue about and it comes up all the time in therapy.

This week on Wholehearted: Love, Sex + Intimacy, I answer a question from a woman who says her partner STILL expects so much of her around the house, even though she earns more money.

I shared some helpful statistics with her that every relationship can benefit from.

I also answer questions from:

  • A husband wishing his wife wanted more foreplay
  • A woman who thinks her new partner might be gay

We all have questions about relationships and intimacy. We’ve all felt stuck and we all benefit from support sometimes.

If there’s something you would like to ask me, submit your question anonymously here and I’ll do my best to answer it in our next monthly Q&A.