Do you ever wish you could ‘let go’ during sex and really enjoy yourself? Feel relaxed around sex? Do you want it to be fun, adventurous or more playful? Want more pleasure?
In today’s episode I want to share what it is that’s helped me on my journey to becoming a sexually empowered and liberated woman.
I did not start my journey with sex feeling confident, empowered or sexually free. I was actually incredibly shy around sex.
I enjoyed sex, but I felt guilty about it for a long time. And I was too embarrassed to ask for what I wanted in bed. I would hear my friends talk about how incredible sex was - or the things that they’d tried as I felt like I was missing out. I just felt like I was holding myself back.
In discovering my sexual freedom, I’ve learned to feel at home in my body. I’m more connected to my intuition. I feel more pleasure and flow in my entire life. My relationships are deeper, there’s an incredible intimacy in them now. Sex is more enjoyable than I imagined it could be. And I feel radiantly alive, sexy and confident - on a daily basis.
So, how do we get there? Well, having coached women for over 10 years, I can tell you it’s different for all of us, but we’ll start today with:
Becoming a sexually liberated woman is a journey well worth taking. I encourage you to take the first step.
If you haven’t downloaded my e-book Liberated yet, head over to my website www.isiah-mckimmie.com and get your free copy.
One of the most important relationships we have (besides the one we have with ourselves) is with our partner. But life gets busy, we work so hard, we get stuck in a routine and, so often, we let our relationships fall into neglect. How do we get back in touch with ourselves - our wants, desires and our own sensuality - and reconnect with our partner?
Speaking with Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder, Mitle Southey on her Spirited Sisters Podcast, we take a deep dive into:
As a woman, know that you can learn to draw on your divine feminine energy, expand your potential for pleasure and create the life and relationships you want.
To take the first step to connecting with yourself and/or your partner, download a copy of my e-book Liberated, join the waitlist for the Sensual and Soulful Online Programme or if you’d like to connect and talk about if/how coaching might work for you book in for a Get in Touch session.
If you’ve enjoyed this podcast, I’d love for you to head to i-tunes and leave a review.
More about Mitle Southey
Mitle is a former lawyer turned Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder. She has been trained in the leading edge science of intuition and as a modern day Priestess and contemporary Mystic with the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence. Her role as a sacred circle holder is to guide women to discover their unique purpose, innate self-worth and deepest wisdom.
She brings a modern spin to the ancient and sacred tradition of women’s circles to women online, through her Spirited Sisters Podcast (was Dare to Flourish) and in person in Australia and around the world.
When my clients come to me experiencing painful sex, they often tell me they feel embarrassed and ashamed and like they can’t talk to anyone about it. I’m passionate about changing that.
Challenges with sex or our genitals shouldn’t be treated any different to a challenge with any other part of our body. It’s biology - it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you.
Incredibly, painful sex effects up to 20% of us women at some point in our lives and, just to put that in perspective, that means it’s more common than asthma, cancer and heart disease!
It impacts our enjoyment of sex, can dramatically reduce our sexual desire and can place strain on our relationships - or lead women to avoid relationships completely.
If you are experiencing sexual pain at the moment you might be feeling: frustrated, guilty, confused, upset embarrassed or all of the above.
It may be impacting your self confidence and even your daily functioning.
So, I want to assure you that you’re not alone.
Painful sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.
And, although what exactly is causing painful sex can often be difficult to diagnose, there is always a reason and usually treatments that can be found. There are also caring, understanding and qualified professionals that can help you through the process.
In this podcast I’m talking about:
And of course
Over the past 10 years, I’ve helped many through the process of diagnosing and treating sexual pain, giving them emotional support, helping them ease the burden on their relationship and re-introduce sex when the time is right.
While I hope you find this episode helpful, it doesn’t replace a detailed consultation with a medical professional or therapist.
Head over to my blog page for more advice and resources on painful sex and please reach out and get support from a professional. You really don’t need to go through this alone.
I’m sending you all my love, blessings and good luck to you in this journey.
If you found this episode helpful, I’d love for you would head over to iTunes and leave me a rating for this podcast. It will help me reach other women who might need support or encouragement around sex, love and intimacy too.
Thanks so much for listening beautiful.
I recently had a wonderful conversation with the lovely Sarah McGahan on The Truth Podcast.
I believe giving ourselves permission to feel pleasure is so important. Take a listen as Sarah and I chat openly about Pleasure, Intimacy + Desire as we touch on:
We also talk about what it takes to show up every day in your truth and be vulnerable.
I hope you embrace the practical tools we share to enhance your experience of powerful intimacy, loving sex, more pleasure ad meaningful connections.
I’d love to hear what resonates most with you so please feel free or leave me a comment or connect with me on Insta.
Sarah is an Intuitive Mentor who moved to Bali on a whim, with nothing more than a laptop and a dream to live a life beyond the constraints of society.
Fast forward four years and she now offers sessions and programs (creating profound shifts at an energetic and cellular level) to clients worldwide. Sarah guides her clients to move beyond their mind and into their heart (AKA their intuition), She helps people, just like you, release negative emotions and stuck energy so that you can uncover your truth, unlock your potential and live a life of soul purpose.
You can check out more on Sarah’s website, facebook page (sarahmcgahanmentoring) or on Instagram (sarah.mcgahan).
I believe in showing up honesty and authenticity. I believe in having REAL, OPEN conversations about sex, love and intimacy. So, I want to share some of my reflections and how I’m dealing with my own relationship break up.
Here’s the thing that I notice most - when our relationship ends - for whatever reason - there’s a sense of shame and a sense of failure.
I hear the mean girl in my head saying things like ‘why couldn’t I make it work’. I’ve ‘FAILED’. And - the big one for me, ‘who would want to see me as a Couples Therapist when my own relationship has just ended?’
I feel some FEAR too – fear that I’ve ‘wasted my time’, it’s too late for me, I’ll NEVER find someone I’m compatible with again.
I’ve blamed myself and I’ve blamed my previous partners. But I'm not doing that this time. And I don’t think anyone else should either.
In this episode I share some raw and real reflections (and sorry, you'll hear me get a little teary about 20 minutes in - but don't worry I'm okay):
If you’re going through or have been through a break up lately, you’re definitely not alone. Take a listen as I share my Survival Guide (of sorts) - the top 10 things that I turn to for support after a break up and that are supporting my clients too.
What I can promise you is that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better - and you can find happiness again. I’m sending all my love and thoughts to any of you going through the transition.
Wherever you’re at right now:
- Whether it be in a relationship and you’re contemplating leaving,
- right in the middle of a break up
- or you’ve just come through one
I'm here to support you. Reach out, book in a 20 minute "Get in Touch" session and let's talk.
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I am super excited to be speaking to my guest today. She is a woman whose work I have admired for a long time and who is out there radically changing people’s lives.
Rosie Rees is a Women’s Nude Yoga facilitator, a certified Kundalini & Hatha yoga teacher and a Relationship Coach. She is also a crystal sex toy entrepreneur.
We're chatting about:
MORE ON ROSIE:
Rosie shares the message of self acceptance, liberation and body-love through feminine breath, sound and movement techniques. She also shares the Yoni Egg and Crystal Pleasure Wand practice with women who want to connect with their Yoni and boost their life-force energy through sexual healing.
Today we’re busting myths and exploring the facts of Female Ejaculation, also known as ‘Squirting’. I share my personal story of learning to ejaculate (referred to as Divine Nectar in Tantra) and share steps by steps tips on how you can learn to ejaculate too. This is a juicy episode with lots of practical tips.
For more, visit isiah's website at: www.isiah-mckimmie.com
My gorgeous friend Stacey, from Mind Interiors, reached out to chat to me about one of the Chakras - in particular, the Sacral Chakra.
Despite the fact that I teach Tantra, I often don’t share on the Chakras, because I know they can seem esoteric - and I like to be really grounded in my approach. But one of the things I really love about Tantra is that it’s not only spiritual, but incredibly practical.
So although we’re talking about Chakras today, you’ll find our conversation practical, insightful and powerful.
Before we dive in, I want to share just a little on what Chakras are for those of you that might be unfamiliar with them.
Chakras in Eastern mythology and philosophy are spinning wheels of energy and light. We can’t see them or actually find them in the body.
There are 7 Chakras aligning with our physical body. Each Chakra has it’s own energy that corresponds to areas of our lives - and we work a lot with these in Tantra.
Stacey and I are talking about the Sacral Chakra, sexuality + creativity and explore:
I hope you enjoy this glimpse into Chakras, creativity and sexuality…
Today I’m sharing just how and where you can start when you haven’t been intimate in a really long time.
One of the most common reasons couples see me as a therapist is because they’re not having sex anymore - or at least not being intimate as often as they’d like.
Becoming intimate again can make such a huge difference to our relationship and overall happiness.
We tend to think everyone else has a great relationship and sex life. We can think that there’s something wrong with us because we’re the only ones not having sex – or arguing about it. But couples who are struggling in this area are not alone. It’s far more common than we might think.
What’s really important to know is it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you.
If it’s been a while since you were intimate you might be able to relate to this:
For this episode we’re going to talk specifically about how to take small, practical steps towards regaining intimacy when it’s been a long time, including:
Starting again when your sex life has been in decline isn’t easy, but it is possible.
Often, taking the first step is the hardest. By listening to this podcast, you’ve already begun the journey.
And I want you to know you don’t need to do it alone. I'm here to help. You can reach out via my website and book a short 20 minute call to see if we’re a good fit for working together.
You can also find more free resources on my website on building connection and reigniting intimacy. And for more on Desire – check out my recent podcast, Desire – everything you need to know.
In this episode, I’m back talking with Julia Hasche on The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast and this time it's all about ORGASMS.
and lots more!
And I answer questions from listeners such as:
It’s an interesting one! I hope you enjoy. And if you have any girlfriends out there who should take a listen, be sure to share.
More About Julia
Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author, and mentor for single parents. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about.
It aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. She does this by providing a community for single mothers, providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media, her one-on-one mentoring and her online courses.
You know those conversations that you wish you could have with your girlfriends?
Today’s episode is one of those conversations. I’m talking to my friend Sal from Mojoco about anal sex.
We’re having an open (and very candid) conversation about our own experiences and some of the things you might need to consider if you or your partner are interested in exploring anal play.
Here’s what we cover:
Take a listen in ...
And you can find out more about Mojoco and their products here.
Tantra is the incredible practice that really began my journey with sexuality, sensuality and intimacy - and still provides the foundation of so much of the work I do.
I hear all kinds of things when I tell people I practice and teach Tantra.
I’ve heard "Oh Tantra, that’s about group sex right?" or
"Oh, I know all about Tantra. Sting does Tantra and he can have sex for 9 hours."
In this episode, I’m:
If you feel disconnected from your partner OR struggle with recurring arguments. If you find yourself replaying the same patterns in relationships OR if you wish you could feel more confident with sex and your body … then this episode is for YOU.
Recently I was interviewed by Naturopath Jules Galloway as part of her podcast, Shiny Healthy You, in what has jokingly been labelled her Vag series! We stepped away from discussing lady bits to delve more into relationships.
Whether you’re single, or in a relationship, there will be plenty of “aha” moments!
We talk about what to do
“It’s actually really normal for there to be different desire levels for sex in a relationship.”
And if you’re single, find out tips for attracting a partner that will be the right person for us, and how to stop repeating old patterns when it comes to the lovers we’re drawn to.
“A partner’s desire for sex is actually a desire for connection and intimacy.”
We also chat about body image, and what it means to feel happy in your body (and sexy!) as you age and as your body changes.
“Once you’re naked, your partner’s just really grateful.”
Hahaha! Yes, it may really be that simple! Listen in to find out why.
MORE ABOUT JULES
Jules Galloway is a passionate naturopath, speaker and podcaster.
With over 10 years of clinical experience, Jules has made it her mission to help women find their shine again. She’s guided hundreds of women through her eCourses, sees clients individually and her podcast gets thousands of downloads every month.
You can find Jules at http://julesgalloway.com, on Facebook and Instagram at @julesgallowayhealth, and check out her podcast on iTunes - just search for Shiny Healthy You.
What makes us emotionally resilient? How does being self aware benefit our relationships? How do we find time for ourselves - and our relationship once we've had kids?
In this episode I'm talking to parenting expert Dina Cooper on all this and more.
This is a must-listen episode whether you have kids or not. We're taking a deep dive into managing emotions, prioritising relationships and putting ourselves first.
For more on Dina and her services visit hoogi.com.au
For more on Isiah visit www.isiah-mckimmie.com
How do you initiate sex?
Does it ‘just happen’? Do you make the first move? Do you usually leave it up to a partner?
This is a topic that comes up a lot with couples that I’m working with in therapy and the articles I share on this topic are always popular.
Initiating sex can be incredibly anxiety provoking. We’re all sensitive to feeling unloved.
If we make a move, and our partner doesn’t reciprocate, we can feel like they’re rejecting us - and no one wants to feel that way.
Many women I speak to, tell me that they psyche themselves up all day to make a move on their partner when they get home, but then, they feel too nervous and back out. Or they just feel like they don’t even know how to…
Or that they try - and their partner doesn’t seem to be interested.
In this episode I share some of the common challenges of initiating sex and then ways you can initiate that are intimate, fun and sexy.
I hope you enjoy!
So many women express a longing to be more in touch with their sexual selves.
To be able to ask for what they want, give themselves permission to feel pleasure, to be sexy…
And yet, so many of us feel stuck and unsure where to start.
My journey started with Tantra and in this episode of the podcast, I’m talking with Ly from Zensual Woman about my journey and how YOU can connect with your sensual soul too.
In our intimate conversation, you’ll hear:
I hope you love what we have to share.
More about Ly:
Ly Aunapu is a leadership coach, accredited Journey practitioner, founder of Zensual Woman, and on a big mission to help women feel confident without having to fake it.
Despite being a published journalist since age 16 and obtaining a masters in journalism, she realized later in life that her true passion is to help women. She now works spreading her message globally through live workshops, running monthly Women's Circles, coaching women one-on-one, and by supporting her community on social media.
Discover how to connect to your Sensual + Sexual self with my new ebook Liberated - it’s FREE for a limited time only.
I love giving oral sex to my lover.
There's something deeply intimate and incredibly arousing about oral sex to me.
Giving oral sex is an almost guaranteed way for me to turn myself on... But more important than that, it also opens my heart. It feels like a gift I'm giving my partner. It requires trust and surrender, especially if I'm in the mood to take my lover deep. I need to trust that he'll pay attention to me and not push too far. I need to feel like he's connected to me and appreciating me.
I know that not everyone shares my enthusiasm for it... It's one of those contentious issues that shows up with couples I work with in therapy sometimes.
Believe me, I get it.
I understand how it isn't everyone's cup of tea.
In today’s podcast I’m talking to Roger from curious creatures about oral sex. We share:
More about Roger:
Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures. Roger was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identifies as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.
Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.
On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work.
To find out more or contact Rog, you can visit their website at: https://www.curiouscreatures.biz
I believe that all women deserve to feel confident, empowered and deeply pleasured around sex.
And yet, there’s so much about it that we’re not taught.
Knowledge is power beauty - so today I’m talking about orgasms.
It’s stuff that I believe we all should have been taught, but probably weren’t.
If we believe movies, TV and porn, we’re told that women orgasm easily, loudly and frequently, with hardly any effort and certainly no foreplay at all.
Unfortunately these myths just don’t hold up in the real world.
At least not for most of us.
So, let’s look at the numbers on orgasm.
30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis.
and 10% of sexual active women have never had an orgasm at all. That’s 1 in 10 of us.
Men are twice as likely to orgasm than women during heterosexual intercourse. (Lesbians have a higher rate of orgasm that women having sex with with men.)
Sex can be amazing, fulfilling and fun without having an orgasm, and we certainly don’t need to have an orgasms every time we have sex.
But it can also be frustrating when we want to have an orgasm and can’t.
I want you to have all the info you need to make them as awesome as they can be, so let’s dive in to today’s episode.
It’s normal to feel shy and worried about raising the topic of sex with your partner.
In this episode, recorded as part of the Women’s Sexuality Conference, I talk to Maya Melamed about the most common issues that couples seek help with in therapy - and how to talk about them together.
Useful links from Maya’s Episode:
Listen to the entire Women’s Sexuality Conference here
Connect with Maya here
If there are any topics you want me to cover, people you want me to talk to or questions you want answered please connect with me on Insta!
Tantra is a topic close to my heart and something I know so many of you are interested in too.
I was recently told by someone who came to my workshop years ago that the lessons Tantra shares on cultivating more feminine energy actually changed her life - she credits it with attracting the gorgeous man she’s now married to!
This is why I’m thrilled to be talking about all things Tantra and the Divine Feminine with the gorgeous Elise Carr from Stella Muse today.
Here’s just some of what we talk about:
Elise's Show Notes
Discover how Tantra can change your life
If this has peaked your interest and you'd like to explore Tantra, I'd love to have you join my 8 part Wholehearted Tantra for Women online course - click here for details.
It's a topic that I'm asked about more than any other in my work.
Women's sexual desire can seem like a mystery - there is often so much about it that we're not taught and don't understand.
Lack of desire can be frustrating - and we can wonder if there's something wrong with us for having not enough of it or for having too much desire.
In today's podcast I discuss:
- The science behind desire we all need to know
- Common myths around desire
- Why we would even want to be connected to our desire
- How we can cultivate desire
- 10 practical tips for increasing your sexual desire
Click here to download your copy of Spark + Reignite Desire: Your guide to feeling in the mood again.
In this episode, I'm interviewed by Julia Hasche from The Single Mother Survival Guide and talk about all things SEX AND BODY IMAGE.
I also share my advice on:
For information about the single parent mentoring programs available with Julia, visit Single Mother Survival Guide Services: https://www.singlemothersurvivalguide.com/services/
Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/singlemothersurvivalguide/
Connect with Isiah at: http://isiah-mckimmie.com/
Or on Insta: https://www.instagram.com/isiahmckimmie.sexologist/
What’s the secret to rocking, soulful sex?
How do you learn to love again after gut-wrenching heartbreak?
How do we move on from self-criticism to truly and deeply love ourselves?
Just how important is sex to a relationship?
In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking to the incredible Melissa Ambrosini.
Melissa is the bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, host of the number one podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, a speaker, and self-love teacher. Her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centred life one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy, and bursting with love. She has just released her latest book Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships & Soulful Sex.
We’re answering all these questions and more.
I think you’ll love our conversation.
Connect with Melissa via:
Melissa’s Website https://melissaambrosini.com
Melissa’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/melissaambrosini/
Connect with Isiah at www.isiah-mckimmie.com
Welcome to the first episode of the Wholehearted: Love, Sex + Intimacy Podcast.
After a looooong break from podcasting, I’m pretty damn excited to be back on the airwaves for you.
I’m looking forward to sharing honest conversations, real sex education + powerful advice to help you revel in deep intimacy, loving sex and wholehearted relationships!
In this first episode, I’ll be sharing my own journey to sexual freedom and how I ended up becoming a sexologist including details I don’t share very often.
Tantra is a spiritual and sexual practice that completely changed my life.
In 2009, after I had been studying Tantra for several years, I went to a workshop that I thought would be like others I had been to before.
I had heard that one of the teachers had a wonderful reputation, but when he walked through the door, I was disappointed.
He looked so… normal.
He looked the least like a Tantra teacher of anyone I had ever seen.
But within the space of a week, this rather normal-looking man would deepen my knowledge of Tantra, relationships, spirituality and myself beyond anything I had known before.
This week on the Soulful Bedroom Goddess podcast, I’m interviewing my Tantra Teacher, Kip Moore. Kip also shares deep wisdom on intimacy, the dance between the masculine and feminine and the powerful, sacred nature of sex.
Hear are some of the highlights of this intimate and insightful conversation:
Kip also offers one of the best definitions of Tantra I’ve ever heard:
“Tantra is letting all the facades go, being absolutely open and honest and present as a man with your beloved and with her trusting you enough to reveal her innermost Divine energy.”
More About Kip Moore
Kip has taught with some of the most renowned Tantra teachers on the planet including Charles Muir, Margot Ananda and Bodhi Avinasha. He has been my Tantra teacher since 2009.
To book a free 15 minute session with Kip, you can email him: tantricsky[at]aol[.]com
More About Isiah McKimmie
Isiah McKimmie is a Relationship Therapist, Sex Therapist and Tantra teacher passionate about helping people discover wholehearted sensuality, soulful intimacy and spirit-led lives. Visit her here to let your inner bedroom goddess shine.
Join her in The Sensual, Soulful + Spirit-led Woman Facebook group here.