Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy

Want wild confidence, a harmonious relationship + lasting desire? Welcome to Wholehearted Love, Life + Intimacy - the podcast here to help you create harmonious relationships, an inspired life + wholehearted intimacy. Join Isiah McKimmie, Couples Therapist, Sexologist + intimacy guru as she shares inspiring interviews, practical tools and the latest research-based advice for wild confidence, epic pleasure and a WHOLEHEARTED life. From dating, confidence and communication to successful relationships, having epic orgasms and living a life you LOVE - this podcast has it all. Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who’s been helping women and couples discover love, intimacy, lasting desire for over a decade. If you have a guest suggestion, a question or topic you’d like to see Isiah cover on the podcast, head to
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Jun 28, 2018

So many women express a longing to be more in touch with their sexual selves.

To be able to ask for what they want, give themselves permission to feel pleasure, to be sexy… 

And yet, so many of us feel stuck and unsure where to start.

My journey started with Tantra and in this episode of the podcast, I’m talking with Ly from Zensual Woman about my journey and how YOU can connect with your sensual soul too.

In our intimate conversation, you’ll hear:

  • The importance of giving ourselves permission for pleasure and exploration
  • How pleasure in our bedroom is directly related to pleasure in our lives
  • How we begin to call in a life partner
  • What to do when we find we’re attracting the same wrong people over and over
  • Practical steps you can take to begin connecting to your sensuality

I hope you love what we have to share.

More about Ly:

Ly Aunapu is a leadership coach, accredited Journey practitioner, founder of Zensual Woman, and on a big mission to help women feel confident without having to fake it.

Despite being a published journalist since age 16 and obtaining a masters in journalism, she realized later in life that her true passion is to help women. She now works spreading her message globally through live workshops, running monthly Women's Circles, coaching women one-on-one, and by supporting her community on social media.

You can find more about Ly on her website: on Instagram and in her FB group


Discover how to connect  to your Sensual + Sexual self with my new ebook Liberated - it’s FREE for a limited time only.

Jun 27, 2018


I love giving oral sex to my lover.

There's something deeply intimate and incredibly arousing about oral sex to me.

Giving oral sex is an almost guaranteed way for me to turn myself on... But more important than that, it also opens my heart. It feels like a gift I'm giving my partner. It requires trust and surrender, especially if I'm in the mood to take my lover deep. I need to trust that he'll pay attention to me and not push too far. I need to feel like he's connected to me and appreciating me. 

I know that not everyone shares my enthusiasm for it... It's one of those contentious issues that shows up with couples I work with in therapy sometimes.  

Believe me, I get it.

I understand how it isn't everyone's cup of tea.

In today’s podcast I’m talking to Roger from curious creatures about oral sex. We share:

  • Our likes and dislikes
  • How to talk about oral
  • How you can learn to feel more comfortable giving oral sex (if you want to) 


More about Roger: 

Roger Butler is the driving force behind Curious Creatures.  Roger was brought up white, middle-class, mostly heterosexual, and male. In addition to that lineage, they now identifies as kinky, tantric, polyamorous, queer, and very, very curious. Their training is in Process Oriented Psychology and the facilitation of groups, coupled with an extensive education in sexuality.

Curious Creatures believes that sex is about delicious, hedonistic experience as well as being a path of self development and a contribution to a less violent world. They run workshops in a whole range of related topics in cities across Australia.

On their podcast Curious Conversations about Sex, Rog speaks on topics as broad as complex relationship dynamics, body image, gender issues, sex in long-term relationships, kinky sex, abuse and trauma, modern tantra, and sex work. 

To find out more or contact Rog, you can visit their website at:


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Jun 25, 2018

I believe that all women deserve to feel confident, empowered and deeply pleasured around sex.


And yet, there’s so much about it that we’re not taught.


Knowledge is power beauty - so today I’m talking about orgasms.


It’s stuff that I believe we all should have been taught, but probably weren’t.


If we believe movies, TV and porn, we’re told that women orgasm easily, loudly and frequently, with hardly any effort and certainly no foreplay at all. 


Unfortunately these myths just don’t hold up in the real world. 

At least not for most of us. 


So, let’s look at the numbers on orgasm.


30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis.

and 10% of sexual active women have never had an orgasm at all. That’s 1 in 10 of us.


Men are twice as likely to orgasm than women during heterosexual intercourse. (Lesbians have a higher rate of orgasm that women having sex with with men.)


Sex can be amazing, fulfilling and fun without having an orgasm, and we certainly don’t need to have an orgasms every time we have sex.


But it can also be frustrating when we want to have an orgasm and can’t.


I want you to have all the info you need to make them as awesome as they can be, so let’s dive in to today’s episode.

Jun 22, 2018

It’s normal to feel shy and worried about raising the topic of sex with your partner.

In this episode, recorded as part of the Women’s Sexuality Conference, I talk to Maya Melamed about the most common issues that couples seek help with in therapy - and how to talk about them together.

You’ll discover:

  • how to talk about sex from an empowered place,
  • how to ask for what you want in the bedroom and
  • tips to discover what you enjoy to begin with


Useful links from Maya’s Episode: 

Listen to the entire Women’s Sexuality Conference here

Connect with Maya here

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Jun 20, 2018

Tantra is a topic close to my heart and something I know so many of you are interested in too.

I was recently told by someone who came to my workshop years ago that the lessons Tantra shares on cultivating more feminine energy actually changed her life - she credits it with attracting the gorgeous man she’s now married to!

This is why I’m thrilled to be talking about all things Tantra and the Divine Feminine with the gorgeous Elise Carr from Stella Muse today.

Here’s just some of what we talk about: 

  • Elise’s journey from model to foreign correspondent to Tantra teacher
  • What exactly Tantra is
  • Why we believe that so much of what is shared about Tantra is misleading
  • What feminine energy looks and feels like
  • How to embody more feminine energy in your life


Elise's Show Notes

Descent to the Dark Mother Goddess 

Sacred Sessions - Scheduling Love Making 

Boundaries On the Conscious Path 


Discover how Tantra can change your life

If this has peaked your interest and you'd like to explore Tantra, I'd love to have you join my 8 part Wholehearted Tantra for Women online course - click here for details. 

Jun 18, 2018

It's a topic that I'm asked about more than any other in my work.

Women's sexual desire can seem like a mystery - there is often so much about it that we're not taught and don't understand.

Lack of desire can be frustrating - and we can wonder if there's something wrong with us for having not enough of it or for having too much desire.

In today's podcast I discuss:

- The science behind desire we all need to know

- Common myths around desire

- Why we would even want to be connected to our desire

- How we can cultivate desire

- 10 practical tips for increasing your sexual desire



Click here to download your copy of Spark + Reignite Desire: Your guide to feeling in the mood again.

Jun 14, 2018

In this episode, I'm interviewed by Julia Hasche from The Single Mother Survival Guide and talk about all things SEX AND BODY IMAGE.


We discuss:

  • The perception that mums can’t be sexual
  • Why mothers are struggling to find their sense of sensuality and desire again,
  • The male perspective of a mother's sexuality
  • What celebrity mothers are doing for the perception of sexuality in society


I also share my advice on:

  • Getting yourself out there and feeling confident sexually -even if it's been a while
  • Having sex with a new partner; getting emotionally ready, and the potential of carrying forward old issues from the past
  • Getting past the body image insecurities which can lead to feeling extremely self-conscious when it comes to getting naked and having sex
  • Shutting the inner critic down during sex
  • And LOTS MORE!

For information about the single parent mentoring programs available with Julia, visit Single Mother Survival Guide Services:

Or connect with Single Mother Survival Guide on Instagram:


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Jun 13, 2018

What’s the secret to rocking, soulful sex?

How do you learn to love again after gut-wrenching heartbreak?

How do we move on from self-criticism to truly and deeply love ourselves?

Just how important is sex to a relationship?


In today’s podcast episode, I’m talking to the incredible Melissa Ambrosini.

Melissa is the bestselling author of Mastering Your Mean Girl, host of the number one podcast The Melissa Ambrosini Show, a speaker, and self-love teacher. Her mission is to inspire women to create a heart-centred life one that’s wildly wealthy, fabulously healthy, and bursting with love. She has just released her latest book Open Wide: A Radically Real Guide to Deep Love, Rocking Relationships & Soulful Sex.


We’re answering all these questions and more.

I think you’ll love our conversation.


Connect with Melissa via:

Melissa’s Website

Melissa’s Instagram


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Jun 12, 2018

Welcome to the  first episode of the Wholehearted: Love, Sex + Intimacy Podcast.

After a looooong break from podcasting, I’m pretty damn excited to be back on the airwaves for you.

I’m looking forward to sharing honest conversations, real sex education + powerful advice to help you revel in deep intimacy, loving sex and wholehearted relationships!

In this first episode, I’ll be sharing my own journey to sexual freedom and how I ended up becoming a sexologist including details I don’t share very often.