Wholehearted: Love, Life + Intimacy

Want wild confidence, a harmonious relationship + lasting desire? Welcome to Wholehearted Love, Life + Intimacy - the podcast here to help you create harmonious relationships, an inspired life + wholehearted intimacy. Join Isiah McKimmie, Couples Therapist, Sexologist + intimacy guru as she shares inspiring interviews, practical tools and the latest research-based advice for wild confidence, epic pleasure and a WHOLEHEARTED life. From dating, confidence and communication to successful relationships, having epic orgasms and living a life you LOVE - this podcast has it all. Isiah McKimmie is a Couples Therapist, Sex Therapist, Sexologist + Coach who’s been helping women and couples discover love, intimacy, lasting desire for over a decade. If you have a guest suggestion, a question or topic you’d like to see Isiah cover on the podcast, head to
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Nov 19, 2018

Sarah Marie Liddle has been a Pleasure Coach for over a decade and today I’m speaking with her not only about sexual pleasure but being open to all of life's pleasures.

Pleasure can seem quite selfish– but Sarah Marie suggests we re-frame our beliefs around that – and by letting go of our association with “guilty pleasures” we allow ourselves to take pleasure in its entirety.

We live in such a fast paced world now but by slowing down, being present and mindful, living with intention and attention your energy changes - you see things, feel things, experience things differently.

When we can learn to let go of the ego and can step fully into ourselves, our relationship with the world changes –

- we show up differently

- life flows

- we experience things from a place of love, and

- we give the best version of ourselves – in life and in the bedroom.

We discuss the steps we can take

Let’s have fun and explore … all about pleasure.


Sarah Marie Liddle, Pleasure Coach & Host of the Pleasure Rising Podcast is an Aussie-Kiwi obsessed with pleasure – a former lawyer turned pleasure coach. She shows you how to bring pleasure back into your life, relationships & business. Sarah has written for Thought Catalogue, Huffington Post, Elephant Journal, YFS Magazine and more. Learn more on Sarah Marie's website or follow her on Insta.

Nov 15, 2018

In today’s episode I’m speaking with fellow sexologist, Lauren White.

And we’re talking about something near and dear to both our hearts - women giving themselves permission to be sexual as they are - rather than trying to be something that they're not.

Lauren recently published her first book, Permission, that speaks to this topic.

She’s here to lift the veil on what sex can be, other than just what we see in the media, in movies or on television. She’s a big advocate of vanilla as her favourite flavour and encourages us all to own what it is we like - rather than striving for something we're not and feeling that we are falling short in sex and intimacy.

She questions what would happen if we could drop all of the pressure, expectation and judgment. Just turn up in sex as we are and see what happens! Drop all pretence, be in the moment and see what beautiful things can happen – like feeling open, luscious and orgasmic!

We talk about:

  • what to do when you’re not in the mood
  • how to build connection with a partner
  • what to consider before experimenting sexually
  • the roles we take on in life and sexually
  • the importance of a reset button

And one quote I love from Lauren “There is liberation in being satisfied with connected, loving sex that is pleasurable.  I love vanilla!”  Nothing wrong with vanilla!  Let’s take a listen …


LAUREN WHITE is a qualified sexologist, but also describes herself as a "devoted mama, balanced Libran and lounge room dancer extraordinaire". She assists her many satisfied clients to drop the anxiety and reinvigorate their sexual power in their intimate lives. Through her one-on-one sessions, writing and events, she helps women to release their physical and psychological blocks so that they can liberate their libidos for intimacy, sex and life.

Check out her website or  follow her on facebook or Insta @laurenwhiteau.


Oct 17, 2018

Hey loves - and welcome the penultimate podcast of Orgasm week!

We’ve had a whole week of shows on the female orgasm to celebrate my Epic Orgasms Course which is being released next week.  If you’ve missed any of them make sure you go back and listen in. 

Today I’m answering a final question from someone in my community.

She says: I have had orgasms before. Most of the time by myself and sometimes with my partner, but the thing is, I don’t always with him. It’s really frustrating. I don’t really know what it is. Do you have any tips for someone like me? 

Do I have any tips?

Of course I do! It’s this kind of real sex ed that I’m passionate about sharing.

If you’ve never had an orgasm, I suggest going back to listen to the show we did a couple of days ago “Can every woman reach orgasm? What should I do if I can’t?”

But if you have had orgasms, but just can’t seem to have them frequently or reliably, listen up as I delve into 7 practical suggestions for you.

I’m going to be including a whole bonus module on getting what we want in bed in my online course, Epic Orgasms. I’ll be sharing exact scripts and techniques that you can use to ask a partner for exactly what you want and give them feedback on how they’re going, so be sure to check that out next week.

In the meantime why not download my latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm? In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. It’s totally free for a limited time only. 


Oct 17, 2018

Hey loves - and welcome back to Orgasm week!

We’ve had a whole week of shows on the female orgasm to celebrate my Epic Orgasms Course which is being released next week.  If you’ve missed any of the 4 episodes so far, make sure you go back and listen in.

Today we’re talking about one of my favourite topics…. The 7 different kinds of Orgasms women can have!! 

I like to think of all these different kinds of orgasms as just different ‘flavours of pleasure’. Sometimes, I want different orgasms at different times. Any orgasm is a great orgasm if you ask me. The science behind all of this is fascinating too.

I love sharing on this! This is information that I think every woman and man should have.

In this episode, I’ll be guiding you through the 7 different kinds of orgasms and what they feel like.

In Epic Orgasms, my new online course for women, we look at each different type of orgasm possible in more depth and get you detailed instructions on how to have them. It’s going to be a super fun, juicy course and I cannot wait to share it with you. 

In the meantime, my latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm is NOW available.  In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. So be sure to head to my website and download your copy. It’s totally free for a limited time only. 

Oct 17, 2018

Hey loves - and welcome back to Orgasm week!

My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm. If you’ve missed the first few episodes so far, make sure you go back and tune in.

I’m answering more questions from my community today.

Can every woman reach orgasm? What should I do if I can’t?

Sex absolutely doesn’t need to end in orgasm for it to be enjoyable, fulfilling and satisfying but if you want to reach orgasm and can’t, it can be incredibly frustrating.

Fact is, 30% of women struggle to reach orgasm on a regular basis and 1 in 10 of us have never had an orgasm at all. 

And, if you’re one of the 10% of sexually active women who have never had an orgasm, you might be wondering if it’s even possible for you to have an orgasm? 

It’s a good question.

The good news is that the vast majority of women can learn to orgasm when they have the right information and support.

Think of it as a skill you just haven’t been taught yet.

In this episode I talk about the many reasons women may have difficulty reaching orgasm and I share with you the 6 steps you can take to learn to have an orgasm for the first time.


My latest e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm will be available later today!  In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms. So be sure to head to my website and download your copy. It’s totally free for a limited time only. 

Oct 16, 2018

Welcome back to Orgasm Week!

My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m going to be sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm.

If you’ve missed the first two episodes so far, make sure you go back and listen in.

Today, I’m answering another question sent in to me by a woman in my Facebook group. She wrote:

“I am interested in why it’s easier to orgasm alone? There have been times when I’ve been with a partner and they have said “Wow you take ages to orgasm”, and I’ve said “Yep” - but if I did it myself it could be over in three minutes. It can seem like they are doing exactly the same thing but it feels more harsh when they do it. Why is it easier to orgasm alone than with a partner?”

I know this can be really frustrating.

We think that orgasms should just happen - easily, often and loudly. And the especially should happen through penis in vagina intercourse - preferably at the same time.

But honestly, this just isn’t the case for many women.

The truth is 30% of women struggle to orgasm through partner sex.

You can wonder if your partner isn’t doing something right. You can feel embarrassed or like there’s something wrong with you.  You can worry about hurting your partner’s feelings. You partner may also feel confused, inadequate or frustrated. And together, you might even give up trying.

It’s really important to keep in mind that it’s not your fault - and it’s not your partner’s fault either.  You can both let go of any guilt, shame or blame right now. 

In this episode we look at the many reasons why women can struggle to orgasm with a partner and delve into 4 steps to help you do it:

  • Work on having an orgasm by yourself
  • Work out the kind of stimulation that feels really good to you
  • Learn to communicate that to your partner
  • Explore and have fun

Go to my website to join the waitlist for your copy of my e-book EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. In it I share more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms.  It’s totally free for a limited time only. 

Oct 16, 2018

Welcome to what I’m calling Orgasm Week!

My new online course for women - Epic Orgasms is being released next week, so to celebrate, I’m going to be sharing a whole week of shows on the female orgasm.

Today I’m answering a listener’s question: Will I always know if I’ve had an orgasm? How can I tell if I’ve had an orgasm?

So often, I hear that women have been told things like ‘you’ll just know when you’ve had one’ or ‘well, if you don’t know, you haven’t had one’.

The truth is, that’s not always true.

I share the scientific definition of an orgasm … then add some feeling to that!

We often have these huge expectations on orgasm now.  You know that scene from ‘When Harry met Sally’?  I can tell you that my orgasms don’t always look like that - and many women’s don’t.

Orgasms can be different sizes and intensities. Sometimes, they are huge, whole-body, toe-curling experiences, and sometimes, they’re small, silent, little releases. 

Remember, what an orgasm feels like will be different for every woman - and will be different on different days.

And, if you still think you’ve never had an orgasm - or can orgasm by yourself, but not with a partner, stay tuned to the next couple of shows.

I’ll be talking about how you can have your first orgasm, have reliable orgasms with a partner and orgasm more frequently.


FYI, I’m sharing more tips, practical exercises and Tantric secrets to help you have epic orgasms in my latest e-book - Epic Orgasms.

Be sure to head to my website and join the waitlist to download your free copy of EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. It’s totally free - for a limited time only. 

Oct 15, 2018

Have you heard of the Orgasm Gap?

The orgasm gap is a scientifically documented gap in the rates that men and heterosexual women achieve orgasm during sexual encounters together.

Men are twice as likely to have an orgasm in heterosexual sexual encounters than women.

I don’t think sex needs to end in orgasm for it to be enjoyable, satisfying and loving, BUT, disparity in arousal and lack of sexual enjoyment can impact our confidence, sexual desire and our relationships.

In this episode, I talk about what the orgasm gap is, what causes men to be more likely to have an orgasm and what we can do to close the gap.

  1. Getting out of our heads and into our body
  2. Deciding that your pleasure is important
  3. Empowering yourself by choosing empowering sexual beliefs
  4. Educating yourself
  5. Learning to ask for what you want in bed.

With my new e-book, Epic Orgasms, coming out later this week we’re go to make this Orgasm Week on the podcast. In just a couple of days I’ll be sharing an episode with 7 Ways to Increase Your Chance of Reaching Orgasm tonight, where I’m going to share really specific tips on how to reach orgasm. Make sure you stayed tuned to O week to hear it.

And why not head to my website NOW and join the waitlist for your free copy of EPIC ORGASMS: Everything you need to know about the female orgasm. It’ll be totally free for a limited time. 

Oct 9, 2018

Today I’m talking about Gas Lighting.

It’s something I’ve been seeing too much of in my world at the moment.

I’m seeing it in my personal life - amongst my friends, in my clients - and on a much larger scale in world politics at the moment too. 

And - I just can’t stay quiet about it anymore!

Gas lighting is a form of manipulation and control that can occur in relationships causing the victim to question their own feelings, instincts and sanity. It is emotional and psychological abuse.

In gas lighting, the abuser sees the victim as an object, a possession, something to control - although they might not necessary be aware that’s what they’re doing. 

And it doesn’t just happen in intimate partner relationships – it can happen in the work place by bosses, it can happen from friends and unfortunately from other family members like parents. 

In this episode I’ll be sharing

  • What gas lighting might look like and the signs to look out for that you’re being gas lit

- What to do if you’re in a relationship with someone who is gas lighting you, and

- How to avoid this form of manipulation and control.

We’ve been talking about this in my Facebook group, Wholehearted Love, Sex and Intimacy - which is for women only - and I’d love you to come and join the discussion and share your experiences with this.

We all want love - we want to believe the person we love and know that we can trust them.

We all deserve a healthy, stable, loving and respectful relationship.

And you need to know that it IS possible.

If this is happening to you and you’re ready to move on to a healthier, more loving relationship, this is something that I support people with, so please visit the coaching page of my website and book a 20 minute call with me so we can find out if we’re a good fit for working together.

Oct 5, 2018

Do you feel like men and women just communicate differently?

Have you ever wanted to understand how the other sex thinks?

I know you’re going to love this episode, where I take a deep dive with "the relationship guy”, Gideon Hanekom.

When I announced to my Facebook community that I was going to be chatting to a male relationship expert for insights into how men and women communicate, I was flooded with questions.

Questions like:

  • How do I talk to a man about emotions?
  • How do I get him to open up when he’s in shut down?
  • Why is sex so important to a relationship?
  • And - we keep fighting over chores - how can I get my partner to do more housework?

We’re answering all of these questions and more.

We’ll cover the key needs men and women have in a relationship + the one emotion men are always trying to avoid.

We talk about the differences that happen in men and women’s bodies when we try to communicate + how you can effectively understand each other.

We also talk about the role of sex in vulnerability and intimacy.


Gideon Hanekom is known as "the relationship guy" and creator of – a top dating and relationship advice blog. He is a trained professional counsellor, hypnotherapist, relationship coach and one of New Zealand’s top dating, relationship, and marriage bloggers. Gideon coaches troubled couples in stress-filled and stagnant long-term relationships how to create happier, healthier and more intimate love lives.

He also holds Bachelor and Master degrees in the field of Theology and is a Marriage Celebrant. He’s been happily married for twelve years with two beautiful kids and lives in New Zealand.

Check out more on his website or connect on Facebook or Instagram.

Oct 1, 2018

Those of you who know me know how I feel about this! I’m all about us being empowered in our sexuality - and having it be as enjoyable as possible. We deserve to feel pleasure. We deserve to fully enjoy sex. And making sure we do that is our responsibility.

There is so much to be said for us discovering what it is that we enjoy.

None of us are born great at sex, or innately knowing what we like. We have to figure it out through exploration. 

We’ve got to stop expecting a partner to just know what to do - or blaming them if we’re not enjoying what’s happening.

Women say things like:

I’m afraid to tell my partner that I don’t like what they’re doing.

I don’t want to hurt his feelings.

I just don’t know what to ask for.

Sometimes I ask for something and he doesn’t do it right.

I often hear women say they’re afraid to ask for what they want - I also hear men say they really wish they had more direction, because they really want to please their partner - they’re just not sure how. This sucks for women - and it sucks for men too. 

Over and over I hear men tell me that they feel performance pressure. They feel like they’re expected to know what to do. And they feel out of their depth and a bit clueless. 

So I'm going to share with you how and when you can start the conversation. And don't worry, with a bit of practice, this gets easier - and we tend to get more creative with practice! So give yourself permission to start. Most partners will love you being more open and expressive about your sexual wants and needs.

My hope is that today’s episode helps you think differently about your pleasure and how to get more of it!

I’m going to be talking about this more in my Epic Orgasms Course coming out soon.

So make sure you head to my website and join the waitlist to be the first to hear when it opens.

Sep 28, 2018

I talked to the beautiful Aesha Kennedy of Brilliant Misfits Podcast about how I have never felt as if I fitted in (even as a child) BUT how I’ve turned that into a gift.

You know I really believe that the world needs (and deserves) us to really “bring” and “share” our unique gifts and talents, not be just what others expect us to be, not to hide our light or to make ourselves smaller.

When we love ourselves for who we really are and feel good about ourselves we make better choices – for ourselves, those we love and for the world around us.

In life you may plan to head in one direction, but you have to trust your intuition and allow the universe to guide you.

Something that Aesha said really resonated. She said “We live in a creative universe. If we can trust in that & not try to control it, it won’t lead you astray, everything is divinely perfect.” 

I love that. That so much resonates for how I live my life.


Some of the highlights from our chat:

- Investigating unconscious beliefs

- What does an embodied practice mean?

- Tips and tools to care and connect, first with yourself and with others.

- Unpacking taboos around being a sexual being

- embracing who you truly are


Take a listen. And I hope my story inspires you to connect with your true self and to confidently be the best version of your own “Brilliant Misfit” that you can be.

Aesha Kennedy is a Certified Life Coach, a teacher and practitioner of Yoga and Mindfulness and a Visual Arts Practitioner.  Her podcast Brilliant Misfits is about women who didn’t fit in and explores how this has helped them create amazing lives and businesses by courageously following their heart and doing it their own way.

You can find out more about Aesha on her website, her facebook page or check her out on Insta.

And to read more about my daily practices, check out my website.

Sep 24, 2018

Do you ever wish you could ‘let go’ during sex and really enjoy yourself? Feel relaxed around sex? Do you want it to be fun, adventurous or more playful? Want more pleasure?

In today’s episode I want to share what it is that’s helped me on my journey to becoming a sexually empowered and liberated woman. 

I did not start my journey with sex feeling confident, empowered or sexually free. I was actually incredibly shy around sex.

I enjoyed sex, but I felt guilty about it for a long time. And I was too embarrassed to ask for what I wanted in bed.  I would hear my friends talk about how incredible sex was - or the things that they’d tried as I felt like I was missing out. I just felt like I was holding myself back.

In discovering my sexual freedom, I’ve learned to feel at home in my body. I’m more connected to my intuition. I feel more pleasure and flow in my entire life. My relationships are deeper, there’s an incredible intimacy in them now. Sex is more enjoyable than I imagined it could be. And I feel radiantly alive, sexy and confident -  on a daily basis. 

So, how do we get there? Well, having coached women for over 10 years, I can tell you it’s different for all of us, but we’ll start today with:

  • Getting out of your head + in to your body
  • Making your pleasure a priority - in life and in the bedroom
  • Shining a light on your inner sexual beliefs + break free
  • Getting real sex education + pleasure education
  • Learn to say no - so you can also say “hell yes!”
  • Explore and practice

Becoming a sexually liberated woman is a journey well worth taking. I encourage you to take the first step. 

If you haven’t downloaded my e-book Liberated yet, head over to my website and get your free copy.

Sep 20, 2018

One of the most important relationships we have (besides the one we have with ourselves) is with our partner.  But life gets busy, we work so hard, we get stuck in a routine and, so often, we let our relationships fall into neglect. How do we get back in touch with ourselves - our wants, desires and our own sensuality - and reconnect with our partner?

Speaking with Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder, Mitle Southey on her Spirited Sisters Podcast, we take a deep dive into:

  • self worth and connecting with your sensual female energy
  • sexual and emotional intimacy
  • what ‘sensually embodied’ and ‘erotically empowered’ mean
  • connecting with your partner outside of the bedroom
  • the role of a sexologist
  • how a sexologist works with women and couples
  • how to communicate your needs to your partner
  • when to seek support and help; and
  • I guide you through a short exercise to become present and connect with your body.

As a woman, know that you can learn to draw on your divine feminine energy, expand your potential for pleasure and create the life and relationships you want.

To take the first step to connecting with yourself and/or your partner, download a copy of my e-book Liberated, join the waitlist for the Sensual and Soulful Online Programme or if you’d like to connect and talk about if/how coaching might work for you book in for a Get in Touch session.

If you’ve enjoyed this podcast, I’d love for you to head to i-tunes and leave a review.

More about Mitle Southey

Mitle is a former lawyer turned Intuitive Guide and Sacred Circle Holder.  She has been trained in the leading edge science of intuition and as a modern day Priestess and contemporary Mystic with the Institute for Intuitive Intelligence. Her role as a sacred circle holder is to guide women to discover their unique purpose, innate self-worth and deepest wisdom.

She brings a modern spin to the ancient and sacred tradition of women’s circles to women online, through her Spirited Sisters Podcast (was Dare to Flourish) and in person in Australia and around the world.

To connect with Mitle, check out her website or follow her on facebook or Instagram.

Sep 17, 2018

When my clients come to me experiencing painful sex, they often tell me they feel embarrassed and ashamed and like they can’t talk to anyone about it. I’m passionate about changing that.

Challenges with sex or our genitals shouldn’t be treated any different to a challenge with any other part of our body. It’s biology - it doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you. 

Incredibly, painful sex effects up to 20% of us women at some point in our lives and, just to put that in perspective, that means it’s more common than asthma, cancer and heart disease! 

It impacts our enjoyment of sex, can dramatically reduce our sexual desire and can place strain on our relationships - or lead women to avoid relationships completely.

If you are experiencing sexual pain at the moment you might be feeling: frustrated, guilty, confused, upset embarrassed or all of the above. 

It may be impacting your self confidence and even your daily functioning.

So, I want to assure you that you’re not alone

Painful sex doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. And it doesn’t have to mean the end of your relationship.

And, although what exactly is causing painful sex can often be difficult to diagnose, there is always a reason and usually treatments that can be found.  There are also caring, understanding and qualified professionals that can help you through the process.

In this podcast I’m talking about:

  • The names that you might have heard painful sex called and what exactly they all mean
  • The different types of pain that you may be experiencing
  • What causes sex to be painful?

And of course

  • How we can treat it -  my recommendations for your diagnosis and treatment journey

Over the past 10 years, I’ve helped many through the process of diagnosing and treating sexual pain, giving them emotional support, helping them ease the burden on their relationship and re-introduce sex when the time is right. 

While I hope you find this episode helpful, it doesn’t replace a detailed consultation with a medical professional or therapist. 

Head over to my blog page for more advice and resources on painful sex and please reach out and get support from a professional. You really don’t need to go through this alone.  

I’m sending you all my love, blessings and good luck to you in this journey. 

If you found this episode helpful, I’d love for you would head over to iTunes and leave me a rating for this podcast. It will help me reach other women who might need support or encouragement around sex, love and intimacy too.

Thanks so much for listening beautiful. 

Sep 13, 2018

I recently had a wonderful conversation with the lovely Sarah McGahan on The Truth Podcast.   

I believe giving ourselves permission to feel pleasure is so important. Take a listen as Sarah and I chat openly about Pleasure, Intimacy + Desire as we touch on:

  • the dichotomy that exists between the ‘good woman’ and women who are seen as overly sexual
  • the connection between shame and sexual desire and how to manage it so we feel sexually empowered
  • Getting out of your head and coming back into your body to experience increased pleasure
  • making intimacy a priority
  • the importance of foreplay
  • how to recreate a spark between a couple who are experiencing a decline in their sexual desire for one another
  • my advice to women who struggle with pleasure or reaching orgasm 
  • why stress is both bad and good for our sex life
  • allowing and embracing sexual energy as life-force
  • learning to listen to the subtle nuances, reactions and emotions in our body to distinguish between intuition and fear.

We also talk about what it takes to show up every day in your truth and be vulnerable.

I hope you embrace the practical tools we share to enhance your experience of powerful intimacy, loving sex, more pleasure ad meaningful connections.

I’d love to hear what resonates most with you so please feel free or leave me a comment or connect with me on Insta.


Sarah’s Story:

Sarah is an Intuitive Mentor who moved to Bali on a whim, with nothing more than a laptop and a dream to live a life beyond the constraints of society.

Fast forward four years and she now offers sessions and programs (creating profound shifts at an energetic and cellular level) to clients worldwide. Sarah guides her clients to move beyond their mind and into their heart (AKA their intuition), She helps people, just like you, release negative emotions and stuck energy so that you can uncover your truth, unlock your potential and live a life of soul purpose.

You can check out more on Sarah’s website, facebook page (sarahmcgahanmentoring) or on Instagram (sarah.mcgahan).


Sep 11, 2018


I believe in showing up honesty and authenticity. I believe in having REAL, OPEN conversations about sex, love and intimacy.  So, I want to share some of my reflections and how I’m dealing with my own relationship break up.

Here’s the thing that I notice most - when our relationship ends - for whatever reason -  there’s a sense of shame and a sense of failure.

I hear the mean girl in my head saying things like ‘why couldn’t I make it work’. I’ve ‘FAILED’. And - the big one for me, ‘who would want to see me as a Couples Therapist when my own relationship has just ended?’

I feel some FEAR too – fear that I’ve ‘wasted my time’, it’s too late for me, I’ll NEVER find someone I’m compatible with again.

I’ve blamed myself and I’ve blamed my previous partners.  But I'm not doing that this time. And I don’t think anyone else should either. 

In this episode I share some raw and real reflections (and sorry, you'll hear me get a little teary about 20 minutes in - but don't worry I'm okay):

  • Should relationships try and stay together not matter what?
  • How do you know what's the right decision for you?
  • What to do with those feelings of shame, fear and blame
  • Is there a way to walk away a better, stronger person? 

If you’re going through or have been through a break up lately, you’re definitely not alone. Take a listen as I share my Survival Guide (of sorts) - the top 10 things that I turn to for support after a break up and that are supporting my clients too.  

What I can promise you is that there is light at the end of the tunnel. Things will get better - and you can find happiness again.  I’m sending all my love and thoughts to any of you going through the transition.  

Wherever you’re at right now:

- Whether it be in a relationship and you’re contemplating leaving, 

- right in the middle of a break up 

- or you’ve just come through one

I'm here to support you.  Reach out, book in a 20 minute "Get in Touch" session and let's talk.

Love this podcast? Please share and/or leave us a review.

Aug 28, 2018

I am super excited to be speaking to my guest today. She is a woman whose work I have admired for a long time and who is out there radically changing people’s lives. 

Rosie Rees is a Women’s Nude Yoga facilitator, a certified Kundalini & Hatha yoga teacher and a Relationship Coach. She is also a crystal sex toy entrepreneur. 

We're chatting about:

  • What inspired Rosie's idea to teach yoga naked
  • Her journey from that first small class to sell-out workshops around the country; and
  • We get up close and personal talking about self-pleasure and discovering what we like.

Enjoy beauties!


Rosie shares the message of self acceptance, liberation and body-love through feminine breath, sound and movement techniques. She also shares the Yoni Egg and Crystal Pleasure Wand practice with women who want to connect with their Yoni and boost their life-force energy through sexual healing.

You can find more about Rosie and her work on her website or Instagram or the Yoni Pleasure Palace website or Instagram pages.

Aug 15, 2018

Today we’re busting myths and exploring the facts of Female Ejaculation, also known as ‘Squirting’. I share my personal story of learning to ejaculate (referred to as Divine Nectar in Tantra) and share steps by steps tips on how you can learn to ejaculate too. This is a juicy episode with lots of practical tips.

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Jul 27, 2018

My gorgeous friend Stacey, from Mind Interiors, reached out to chat to me about one of the Chakras - in particular, the Sacral Chakra.

Despite the fact that I teach Tantra, I often don’t share on the Chakras, because I know they can seem esoteric - and I like to be really grounded in my approach. But one of the things I really love about Tantra is that it’s not only spiritual, but incredibly practical.

So although we’re talking about Chakras today, you’ll find our conversation practical, insightful and powerful.

Before we dive in, I want to share just a little on what Chakras are for those of you that might be unfamiliar with them.

Chakras in Eastern mythology and philosophy are spinning wheels of energy and light. We can’t see them or actually find them in the body.

There are 7 Chakras aligning with our physical body. Each Chakra has it’s own energy that corresponds to areas of our lives - and we work a lot with these in Tantra.

Stacey and I are talking about the Sacral Chakra, sexuality + creativity and explore:

  • Are personal power, sexual power + creative power the same energy? and how do they affect our self worth?
  • How to recognize when we’re squashing down our energies
  • The interconnectedness of the chakras
  • Activating the life force of your sacral chakra and how that manifests/is expressed
  • How we can reconnect and give ourselves permission to be our true selves
  • How to communicate our needs, wants and desires (to ourself + our partner)
  • Preparing the perfect physical space to engage all the senses ahead of intimacy
  • Giving and receiving with gratitude
  • Sensuality and sexuality

I hope you enjoy this glimpse into Chakras, creativity and sexuality…

Jul 23, 2018

Today I’m sharing just how and where you can start when you haven’t been intimate in a really long time.

One of the most common reasons couples see me as a therapist is because they’re not having sex anymore - or at least not being intimate as often as they’d like.

Becoming intimate again can make such a huge difference to our relationship and overall happiness.

We tend to think everyone else has a great relationship and sex life. We can think that there’s something wrong with us because we’re the only ones not having sex – or arguing about it. But couples who are struggling in this area are not alone. It’s far more common than we might think. 

What’s really important to know is it doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. 

If it’s been a while since you were intimate you might be able to relate to this:

  • Perhaps you’ve been wishing this will just ‘fix’ itself, or wished that you could just get on with your relationship without sex.
  • Maybe you build yourself up, telling yourself ‘I know I need to do something about this – tonight’s the night.’ But then you forget or feel too nervous or just don’t feel in the mood anymore.
  • The longer you go without it, the more awkward and uncomfortable it can feel.
  • You wish you could just want to ‘want to’ again. But you don’t know how or where to start. And it seems like all the sex advice in the world can’t get you over that first hurdle.

For this episode we’re going to talk specifically about how to take small, practical steps towards regaining intimacy when it’s been a long time, including:

  • Asking yourself how important it is to you
  • Understanding desire
  • Sharing appreciation with your partner
  • Spending quality time together
  • The small steps back to intimacy using non-sexual physical touch

Starting again when your sex life has been in decline isn’t easy, but it is possible.

Often, taking the first step is the hardest. By listening to this podcast, you’ve already begun the journey.

And I want you to know you don’t need to do it alone. I'm here to help. You can reach out via my website and book a short 20 minute call to see if we’re a good fit for working together.

You can also find more free resources on my website on building connection and reigniting intimacy. And for more on Desire – check out my recent podcast, Desire – everything you need to know.

Jul 20, 2018

In this episode, I’m back talking with Julia Hasche on The Single Mother Survival Guide Podcast and this time it's all about ORGASMS.

We discuss:

  • if orgasms are possible for everyone
  • if it is normal to struggle to reach an orgasm
  • what kind of factors can get in the way of reaching an orgasm
  • what you can do to find your orgasm

and lots more!

And I answer questions from listeners such as:

  • Is it common for mothers over 40 to lose their sex drive completely?
  • How do you get your orgasm back after having a child?
  • When it comes to sex, is it a case of “use it or lose it”?

It’s an interesting one! I hope you enjoy. And if you have any girlfriends out there who should take a listen, be sure to share.

More About Julia

Julia Hasche is a blogger, podcast host, author, and mentor for single parents. She became a single mother in 2013 when her daughter was just a few months old and created Single Mother Survival Guide in 2016 to assist newly single mothers in all things they may need to know about.

It aims to inform single mothers on relevant issues, support single mothers on their journey, inspire them, and motivate them to create the happy single mother life that they want. She does this by providing a community for single mothers, providing honest and inspirational content through her website, blog, podcast, and social media, her one-on-one mentoring and her online courses.

If you want to find out more about Julia check out her on her website or on facebook or Insta.

Jul 18, 2018

You know those conversations that you wish you could have with your girlfriends?

Today’s episode is one of those conversations. I’m talking to my friend Sal from Mojoco about anal sex.

We’re having an open (and very candid) conversation about our own experiences and some of the things you might need to consider if you or your partner are interested in exploring anal play.

Here’s what we cover:

  • Why I love it and why Sal still isn’t interested in trying it
  • Where to start with anal sex
  • My first experience with anal sex and why it was terrible
  • The hygiene issues you need to consider
  • We also get honest about any ‘messiness’ that might arise

Take a listen in ... 

And you can find out more about Mojoco and their products here.

Jul 17, 2018

Tantra is the incredible practice that really began my journey with sexuality, sensuality and intimacy - and still provides the foundation of so much of the work I do.

I hear all kinds of things when I tell people I practice and teach Tantra.

I’ve heard "Oh Tantra, that’s about group sex right?" or

"Oh, I know all about Tantra. Sting does Tantra and he can have sex for 9 hours."

In this episode, I’m:

  • sharing what Tantra is
  • busting myths on what it isn’t
  • sharing what my own personal Tantra practice involves; and
  • sharing how you can try Tantra yourself - tonight if you want to!
Jul 10, 2018

If you feel disconnected from your partner OR struggle with recurring arguments. If you find yourself replaying the same patterns in relationships OR if you wish you could feel more confident with sex and your body … then this episode is for YOU.

Recently I was interviewed by Naturopath Jules Galloway as part of her podcast, Shiny Healthy You, in what has jokingly been labelled her Vag series!  We stepped away from discussing lady bits to delve more into relationships.

Whether you’re single, or in a relationship, there will be plenty of “aha” moments!

We talk about what to do

  • if your partner wants more sex… and you’re too exhausted to say yes
  • If you’re feeling up for it… but you’re not getting the kind of attention and desire that you want from your partner
  • to reignite the spark and reconnect with your loved one
  • to “get back on the horse” if you haven’t had sex for a reaaaaaally long time. (It can be super awkward and weird, but it doesn’t have to be!)

“It’s actually really normal for there to be different desire levels for sex in a relationship.”


  • the step by step formula to rebuilding your sex life (and your relationship…yay!)
  • how to check in with your own needs and desires, so that you can communicate better with your partner. Because sometimes our needs change over time, and we don’t even realise at first.

And if you’re single, find out tips for attracting a partner that will be the right person for us, and how to stop repeating old patterns when it comes to the lovers we’re drawn to.

“A partner’s desire for sex is actually a desire for connection and intimacy.”

We also chat about body image, and what it means to feel happy in your body (and sexy!) as you age and as your body changes.

“Once you’re naked, your partner’s just really grateful.”

Hahaha! Yes, it may really be that simple! Listen in to find out why.



Jules Galloway is a passionate naturopath, speaker and podcaster.

With over 10 years of clinical experience, Jules has made it her mission to help women find their shine again. She’s guided hundreds of women through her eCourses, sees clients individually and her podcast gets thousands of downloads every month.

You can find Jules at, on Facebook and Instagram at @julesgallowayhealth, and check out her podcast on iTunes - just search for Shiny Healthy You.

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